Is Life Passing You By?
Is Life Passing You By?
I have a client who gave me permission to share her story in the hopes it would help others in the same or similar situation. She has also read this and approved it in advance of my publishing it. Let’s call her “Jane” for the sake of the story. When Jane first approached me about coaching her, she said her goals were “to find a new job” and “to get more enjoyment out of life”.
I asked her which was most important and which one she wanted to tackle first. She said finding a new job would possibly give her more enjoyment in life. My question back to her was, “is what you are telling me is that your job defines your enjoyment in life”? After she pondered for a moment, she said “well, I think my job is my life because all I ever do is work”.
My next question was to ask her to use a word that best described her…one she would choose and one others might use to describe her. She said “passion” to her view and “workaholic” in others view. Our discussion then centered around if that was the word she felt best described her, what right now in life was she passionate about? Her answer; “seriously, finding my passion again”. I asked her a simple question she answered simply; “so, what does this new job look like”? Her answer; “I have no idea, it just has to be better”. My thoughts around that were if you do not know where you are going, then any road will get you there.
I asked her to take me through her thought process of what had kept her at her current job. Her answer was it paid okay, was close to home, it was a job she found easy to do, she only saw the boss a couple of times a week, and while she worked admittedly 65-hour weeks regularly, and disliked most things about it, it was her one “safe” place. My question at that point to her was “what is the biggest take away you have from our discussion at this point”? Her answer is why I wrote this article. She said “that life is passing me by and I am letting it”.
Let me pause here for a second and ask you a question. Is Jane that different from you?
Jane and I then embarked on a 10-session coaching process over a 4 ½ month period I use around “Authentic Living”. It examines a persons’ life story, past successes, their values, their passions, their beliefs, and charts a course for where they really want to go. In this 10-week period, Jane and I looked backwards and forward. We looked at times when she had passion, where she found the source of it, and what she felt would help her get it back. It was a time where she finally had to sit down and through facilitated self-discovery, admit she had been coasting in life, tolerating things she should not have been and had truly lost her way. Like many busy executives, Jane never took time for herself; she just worked and went through the motions in the rest of her life.
Please do not misunderstand my role, the role of the coach. A coach is not a psychologist, nor are we a counselor. We are skilled facilitators who help people develop their strengths and to chart a course to achieve their personal and professional goals.
The happy ending to the story is that Jane is now a Vice President of marketing in a company and industry she never even considered a possibility. She is truly relying on her strength of “passion” not just in her job role, but frankly in all aspects of her life. If you met her, her passion would be obvious right away to you.
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